Today a lot of women all around the world, are feeling like they are parenting their partners, instead of relying on their support, and getting help from them in their family life. A lot of mothers nowadays are facing huge problems, because they are the ones that play the roles of a chef, maid, chauffeur, teacher, nurse, correctional officer and not getting any help from their husbands at all, and on top of this they have full time jobs.
The Husbands are stressing out their Wives, two times more than their Kids
Unfortunately, many women that are mothers, are actually getting more stressed by their partners than they get stressed from their children. According to a study which was done on 7,000 mothers, most of them rated their stress level 8.5 out of 10, and they also said that mostly they stress out because they don’t get any support from their partner, and they are the main reason for their stress outs.
Also the researchers concluded that:
- Mostly the mothers are stressing out, about that they don’t have time to do the thing they really need to be doing at the time.
- In every four mothers, three of them which are still married, said that they are the ones that are doing most of the work around the house and the duties for their children.
- In every five mothers, one of them actually is claiming that she isn’t getting enough support and help from her partner, and that can be causing a lot of everyday stress.
Some researchers from the University of Padova, came to a conclusion that when a men lose their wives, their health starts to decrease and they become very depressed. But on the other hand when women lose their partners, are very good in dealing with the stress and their health condition and stress levels quickly improve! All of this was due to the fact that men are more relied to their wives, than wives are relied on their husbands.
Here are the main reasons why women get stressed by their husbands:
-- Women Step Back More
In every story, there are 2 sides. The easiest way for the women are to blame their partner for not being responsible for the family. But in fact, every man tries his best to be a good father and a husband at the same time. The main problem however can be, that women are too scared to let their husbands take over most of the work, because they are not sure about them.
Solution: Most women have such fantasies, and desires about their family, and try to make their life perfect. So, they get a little stressed about these things and they think it is best to take action by themselves, instead of relying on their partners. This means that the women need to spend some time on themselves, try to improve their lives too, and let their partners take some of the work.
-- Men Need To Step Up More
Every wife expects the best from her man, to do things like doctor appointments, taking care of their children, homework duties, etc. But in most cases where both of the partners are having full time jobs, the wife is taking care of these things all by herself, with nobody’s help.
Solution: The best way to solve this case, is to make your husband understand that he needs to step up, take over some responsibilities, the best way to do it is to talk to him. And if he understands and agrees with you to split the work around the family, try making a small list of the things that need to be done for the week. Try making some small calendar reminder, put it on your laptop or your cell phone, in that case nobody will forget his part and there will be no fights over forgetting things.
-- The Partners Aren’t Spending Enough Time Together
Every couple is starting to spend less and less time together, once they have children and start to build a family life. But this is not the way you want your relationship to work. You need to realize that once you have kids, that doesn’t mean that you are only parents, you are still partners! Therefore, if you and your partner realize this, and you keep a healthy and loving relationship, it will improve your family life in many ways!
Solution: Try to spend some quality time with your loved one, with nobody and nothing to distract you, no work, no children or house duty, just the two of you. This will prevent you from the days when you break down, and all you want to do is just hide and run away from everything. Doing this will improve your family life, with your partner and your children as well.